Extreme hair problem! need help with my "mane" ?

I have long hair. Lets make it long, curly, thick, frizzy hair. It literally blows up after i get it wet. It looks like a huge Afro. I cant even moose it and kep the curls because the moose isn't strong enough to hold in all the frizz. I keep it braided because there's is nothing else i can do with it. Any product suggestions? the only time it is manageable is when its greasy or straightened. No, Im not African American. Any tips, products or hair "methods to help? Thank you.